From Michelle in reference to holiday eating. But definitely relevant to summer or always. Especially summer because if I hear “bikini body” again I will hurt someone.
“So, here’s the thing: whether or not you are fat, you are the only person who gets to decide what food goes in your mouth, what tastes good, and how much of it makes you feel full and satisfied. No matter how many busybodies and dietary conspiracy theorists get in your face, you are still the only one who can decide.
This goes for holidays just as much as any other time of the year. And maybe especially for holidays, given that they have been specifically set aside for centuries as feast days. A time to get your feast on. A time to enjoy food without the usual constraints of looming scarcity, whether naturally- or artificially-imposed.
So, with that in mind, I have a few holiday tips for you. And they are not of the “fill up on celery before the party!” variety.
1) You have permission to eat. Period. You have permission to eat what and how much you want. Food is not poison, your body belongs to you, and you are a grown-up who gets to decide what to eat. That’s it. That’s all. It’s the plain truth. So give yourself explicit permission to eat when you sit down to eat. Remind yourself who is really in charge (it’s you.)
2) It’s your job to take care of your body. I mean, I guess you don’t really have to if you don’t want to, but your body is going to make you pay for any sort of neglect. And when I say “take care of it” that is not code for “eat some ridiculously restrictive diet predicated on the notion that food is poisonous.” It means to take care of yourself in a way that feels good and allows you to function well, both physically and emotionally. When it comes to food, taking care of yourself usually means eating often enough so that you’re not starvingly, desperately hungry in between times, and that you eat enough to feel pleasantly satisfied, maybe even really full, but not physically ill. So, even on holidays, the mandate to take care of yourself with food stands: eat some breakfast. If you’re having an early afternoon dinner, maybe have a snack around midday, or a light lunch. If you’re eating your holiday dinner at regular dinner time, then have a regular lunch. You will actually enjoy your holiday meal more on moderate hunger. Desperation makes things exciting and dramatic, but actually can make it more difficult to taste and enjoy your food. It also makes you cranky and more prone to family blow-outs. Drama-free is the way to go.
3) Eat foods that are enjoyable, but that also make you feel good. For me, this means including roughage and fruits and veggies and whatnot with my meals. Your mileage may vary. You know what foods make you feel good. Milk? Bananas? Chocolate on the side? Provided you like eating them well enough, just add them onto whatever you’re already eating. Make it as easy on yourself as possible. Raw baby carrots will get the job done, as will pre-cut, pre-washed salad from a bag, or some mandarins, or a cut-up apple, or even some applesauce or orange juice. Supplement your meal with feel-good foods, no matter how imperfect.
4) Don’t eat stuff you don’t like, either before the holiday meal, or AT the holiday meal. It is not your job to appease Aunt Bessie’s conscience about her horrible cooking. “No, thanks,” is all adults need to say. Repeat it, repeat it, repeat it if they pressure you. “No, thanks.” It’s a complete sentence. It can stand as an answer even to follow-up questions like, “But don’t you like it? You used to always like it!” Just, “No, thanks.” If they push, they are the ones making things weird, not you. In the wise words of Captain Awkward, “Let it be awkward.” It’s not your job to smooth over the awkwardness from their neurosis. It is your job to do right by your body and not force yourself to eat stuff you don’t enjoy, or that will make you feel overfull and terrible later.
5) Don’t engage with the inevitable weight talk, or talk of food-related sinning (“I’m so bad! This is so bad for you! Watch me eat the entire thing because I am totally in denial about my own neurosis!”) Don’t engage. It’s not your job to educate people about eating, or self-acceptance, or Health at Every Size, although a light reassurance that food is good, and it’s a holiday so lighten up, Francis, may not go amiss – if you think it won’t set off further self-flagellation or lecturing. Gauge the situation. You know your relatives better than I do. But it’s a holiday – you should not have to be educating other people about how to eat on a holiday. It’s your day off. And, here’s a hint, they probably won’t listen to you anyway. So keep your own counsel and save your energy for pie.
6) One simple phrase, “Let’s just enjoy this,” can work wonders. If people are insistent on indicting the food sitting on the table (while everyone around them partakes in it and then feels vaguely dirty), say lightly, “Let’s just enjoy this,” and keep eating. Again – repeat and repeat as often as necessary until they lay off. They don’t have to eat the food if it’s giving them anxiety-hives, or if they don’t like it, or if it doesn’t sit well in their body, but it’s rude for them to vomit their issues all over the food that other people are actively eating and enjoying.
7) In case you were tempted, lay off other people’s eating. Put down that responsibility today. Don’t push food on people. Don’t comment on how much or how little they take. Don’t ask them “Should you be eating that?” or “How’s your blood sugar?” It is not your, or anyone’s, place to police what other people eat, even if they have honest-to-goodness dietary issues. They are grown-ups. If they have health issues, presumably they have seen a doctor and have been made aware of what they should be doing. It is their choice to follow those guidelines or not, and it is not your place to play food cop – doing so is a great way to totally spoil a holiday and potentially wreck your relationship. So sit on your hands, zip the lip, do whatever you need to do to stay out of other people’s business.
8) If the food police descend on you, hear them, then drop it. You can go the passive-aggressive-Southerner/Miss-Manners route and give them a “Bless your heart! Thank you for your concern,” and keep eating or walk away. Or you could go the blunt honest route and say, “I know you mean well, but I know what I’m doing,” and try to change the subject or walk away (warning, this one is likely to start a fight if you have contentious family members. Use with caution.) Mostly, someone just wants to make sure their (usually obnoxious) opinion has been heard and validated, so to save your sanity you can just nod gravely and say, “I see! How interesting. Thanks for the advice,” then completely disregard it and go about your meal. Pick whichever strategy matches best with the unique flavour of neurosis present in your family. Then debrief with an understanding friend or family member later on and get a hug. If you expect this kind of thing, see if you can set up a phone hotline situation with a friend ahead of time – agree to text or phone each other to check in at some point during the day, and offer each other support.
9) Focus on your own food and enjoy it. Eyes on your own plate, if you will. This can be really hard to do on a holiday, ironically, because of all the distraction and hubbub of the holiday itself. So, before diving into the plate of delectation set before you, take a good, deep breath. Give your mind two seconds to settle itself. Take a good look at your food, and smile to yourself, and feel how your stomach is feeling. Smell the food and taste the food. It is usually pretty awesome.
10) If all else fails, go sit at the kiddie table. Sure, they don’t want their food touching other food, and will often end up with peas in their nose, but otherwise they tend to be pretty chill about letting people eat what they eat.
Dig in. Be thankful for your food. That’s what this is all about, right?”
THERE’S SO MUCH GOD DAMN SPINACH in this shit even Popeye can’t hate. Yeah spinach makes you swoll as fuck, we know that. But did you know just one cup of spinach is over 300% of your daily recommended Vitamin A? Sweet fuck. You worried about acne? Wrinkles? Any other skin shit? Spinach to the mother fucking rescue. That shit keeps your skin looking so fresh and so clean, not to mention helping to prevent skin cancer. Spinach has these plant-based compounds called “flavonoids” that not only repair damaged skin but also fight multiple types of cancer. Everybody knows I ain’t even fucking playing when it comes to dick cancer, I gotta have my shit in tact.
IF YOU SMOKE cigarettes (tumblr crew I’m looking at you), DO NOT take any Vitamin A or beta carotene supplements. Studies have shown that combining those supplements with tobacco drastically increases your risk for lung cancer. But then again, smoking drastically increases your risk for lung cancer. So quit that shit.
You want to make this shit at home and tell Jamba Juice they can go fuck themselves by not paying for their high calorie sugary shit? Recipe below for a Thug Kitchen Original:
Ectoplasm free and Dr. Venkman approved
- 2 handfuls of spinach (about 2 cups)
- 2 frozen bananas
- 1 cup chopped and skinned cucumber
- 4 medium chunks of pineapple
- 1 cup coconut water or tap
- 1/4 cup orange juice
- 1 tablespoon flax oil (optional)
- 6-8 mint leaves (optional, but I dig that shit)
- yields ~20 ounces
Toss that shit in a blender and zap it. If you prefer it a little sweeter, add some more pineapple to that shit. DRINK UP, CHAMP.
Seriously though, fuck Jamba Juice. Only they could make smoothies as unhealthy as McDonald’s made oatmeal.
Health at Every Size is based on the simple premise that the best way to improve health is to honor your body. It supports people in adopting health habits for the sake of health and well-being (rather than weight control).
Health at Every Size encourages:
- Accepting and respecting the natural diversity of body sizes and shapes (recognising that every body is unique & worthy of respect, & that health will look different for everyone).
- Eating in a flexible manner that values pleasure and honors internal cues of hunger, satiety, and appetite (aka intuitive eating, which involves listening to your body & it’s hunger cues enabling you to eat when hungry & stop when full, as well an enjoy flexibility in your food choices).
- Finding the joy in moving one’s body and becoming more physically vital. (ie finding ways to move your body that you enjoy, for the sake of enjoyment alone, or to help you achieve your fitness goals eg increased strength).
It involves focusing on health-giving behaviours to increase health & quality of life, rather than weight control, & accepting your body whatever size it settles at.
HAES has been shown to have great positive health outcomes for people of all sizes, including significant improvements to mental health.
No, not binge. A binge is an uncontrolled amount of food. But an unhealthy meal, some greasy tacos or a couple slices of birthday cake? That’s just a healthy balance. Focusing on “clean” eating 100% of the time is no more healthy than obsessing over calories.
I get this kind of message a few times a week. I feel like the intent is good-natured and the person means well, but I have to say it still frustrates me. First, you have no idea what I eat. Because of my size you are inferring that I stuff my face full of cheeseburgers and bacon at a constant rate. The truth is, my diet is fairly average and while I certainly indulge from time to time, I don’t consider it to be unhealthy. If I were able to engage in more physical activity, I probably would have lost a decent amount of weight by now. But due to my circumstances, it is only a pound or two per month.
Secondly, a person’s shape is no indication of their health. Sometimes it can be a contributing factor. Sometimes it can be a risk factor. But it is merely one variable in a very complicated health puzzle. Please don’t assume one is unhealthy by physical appearance alone.
I have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. This condition effects athletes, fat people, skinny people… it doesn’t care what shape they are. It is most likely catalyzed by a retrovirus and it reduces the cells ability to use and recycle energy efficiently. I have actually lost a great deal of weight in the past and I can say with certainty that it did not relieve my CFS. I also have narcolepsy, which is a neurological condition. I have depression, which is a chemical imbalance. They don’t care much about what shape I am either. At this point in my life, my weight is not a huge contributing factor in my personal health puzzle.
I am not a fool. I know that my weight is a risk factor for future health problems. And I promise I have done all I can to address this issue. But sometimes there isn’t much to be done. In the 12 years I’ve been sick I have tried many times to reduce my mass. I have seen all the doctors. I have consulted with dietitians. I have bought weight loss gadgets. I have tried all of your wonderful diets. Yes, even that one. (Please don’t send me anymore diet suggestions.) I even tried to have most of my stomach removed, but I was told my other health issues made it too much of a risk.
I have yo-yo’d back and forth so many times. I am not willing to yo another yo unless I truly feel like I have a long term, effective solution. I’ve come to the realization that until I find a way to be more physically active… I’m going to be a big guy. I’m not ashamed of what I see in the mirror. I don’t mind being big. I take my health very seriously and I do the best I can under the circumstances. I could fill a book with all of the effort I have put into feeling better. I have tried risky medicines with horrible side effects. I have tried experimental procedures. I have put myself in great debt trying alternative treatments. And almost all of it for naught. But I still keep trying, even if you don’t think I do.
I thank you for your concern, but I ask that in the future you just accept that I am fat and that’s okay.
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thefrogman is a wonderful person.
Ask your doctor. Depending on what caused the tendonitis, you may just need to be careful to not overwork your ankle. You might need to take anti-inflammatories to reduce swelling. Diet shouldn’t have anything to do with it (unless you have an underlying medical condition), but your exercise might, depending on the cause of your tendonitis. For example, I once had to be on medication and have physical therapy done for a short time because I had tendonitis in my toe. …Yup. It was from having so many dance classes, so for a while I had to keep my toe taped straight and couldn’t rise up onto my toes.
PAPER CHAIN PROJECT
- For every day you go without self harming or purging, add a colourful link to the paper chain
- If you relapse, just add a white link to to the chain and carry on the chain without any disruption
- Over time the paper chain will grow in length and you can see your progress, and see that even if you do relapse, the are still days you go without hurting yourself. The colourful links.
- Over time and through your recovery watch the amount of coloured links begin to increase, and the amount of white links begin to decrease.
- If you feel like hurting yourself, look at the paper chain and realise just how far you’ve made it, and realise that if you’ve resisted before you can do it again :)
- Please reblog, this could help someone towards recovery. ❤
Healthy is not eliminating entire food groups or following crazy crash diets.
Healthy is not exercising to compensate for things you already ate or to merely burn calories.
Healthy is not eating 100% clean 100% of the time.
Healthy is not loving your body if and only if you weigh xxx pounds.
Healthy is not comparing yourself to the photoshopped models in magazines or actors on tv.
Healthy does not require having a thigh gap.
Healthy is not tracking every single calories, fat gram or amount of sugar you consume.
Healthy is learning to balence things that you need to do with things that you want to do.
Healthy is eating whatever you want whenever you want and listening to what your body craves.
Healthy is exercising in moderation for enjoyment and pleasure.
Healthy is taking care of yourself when you are sick or struggling.
Healthy is acknowledging that you are not and will never be perfect but accepting and loving yourself anyways.
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