CONFESSION: I used to be really ashamed of my legs. I have pretty muscular legs, especially my calves, and I was one of those girls who wished that I had skinny legs so I’ll look less chunky in dresses and skirts. I was told that my legs were too big, and for a long time, I believed them.
However, I grew to learn that my legs are one of the best parts about my physical body. With them, I can explore the world, I can run, I can do yoga. I learnt that my legs are only a part of my physical features. My strong and muscular calves remind me that I used to run so much, I have been enjoying sports since I’m a child, and I can do so many other things so long as I let go of all the “can’t do’s”
Which is why I started this little community project called @yourstorylines, where I will be documenting women and their insecurities, hopefully to empower women to embrace their vulnerabilities and view their “flaws” as a part of their stories.
So, give it a follow, and look out for the stories coming your way!
And if you would like to share your story, feel free to hashtag #YourStorylines.
What are your insecurities? xx
Someone’s been putting these up in school and I think I know who it is but it makes me so happy to see these up! #stophatingyourbody
Day 7 of September’s #SizeDoesn’tMatter Yoga Challenge: Supta Virasana (Reclining Hero Pose)
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Fit people who don’t look like fit people are still fit people.
If you can run a marathon but are still chubby, you may not look fit, but you are probably a hell of a lot more fit than people who were born looking thin and barely exercise.
Our culture is fascinated with the concept of being “Bikini Ready” or “Swimsuit Ready” during the summer. Make no mistake - This is weight loss propaganda against women. The idea is that women should only bare their bodies if they are able to attain a certain shape. Otherwise, they should be too ashamed of what they look like and should thus spend the summer hidden away. But that “certain shape” is always changing and will look different for each woman. The only constant is: It requires you to be thinner and prettier than you are right now.
Challenge this thought process by challenging what it means to be “Bikini Ready.” Instead of changing your body, change your mind:
- Tackle the reasons why you don’t feel comfortable wearing a bikini right now. Saying “I’m too fat” isn’t identifying the real problem. If you’re blaming your body, then keep thinking. Dig a little further until you recognize the deeper issue, such as “I’m afraid of how people will treat me” or maybe “I don’t feel like I deserve it” or even “I’ve been told so often that only certain girls can wear bikinis, I’ve never really questioned it.”
- Recognize that changing your body is not going to change your self-image unless you actually begin to attack the feelings that are causing this problem. Your weight or appearance is just a scapegoat - Really, fully accepting this can take time, but plant the seed.
- Go out and buy yourself that bikini. Dig through your closet to find the one that you bought last year. Put it on and just look at yourself in the mirror. You’re you in this bikini and you’ll still be you when you take it off. And let’s face it: You’re awesome.
- If you’re not comfortable showing that much skin right now? That’s fine! Switch up the plan and put on a pretty dress instead, or a new shirt. You don’t have to bare your skin in order to love what you look like and to feel safe. What matters is that you’re happy, not that you’re wearing a specific article of clothing. Don’t feel pressured into putting on a bikini if you don’t really want to.
Reject the idea that your body is what needs to be prepped before you’re ready to put on a bikini. Instead, tackle your mind, your self-image and all the messages that the media is sending you.
Lately, I’ve put on weight. I know it without a scale. And frequently, I’ve been feeling upset about that fact. But here’s the thing: I’m still me. I’m still smart and creative and pretty and good with animals. None of the important things about me change with my weight.
I was very nervous about being in just a bikini top and skintight leggings while hiking and swimming with Lucy this week, but it was also such a great experience.
Even while at the beach, even when I looked through the adorable photos Lucy took of me in my bikini, I had twinges of anxiety. Too many years of disordered thoughts have made my mind all cobwebby. I’m still working on clearing them out to let the sunshine in, but this day trip was a good step forward.