Aww thank you guys! Thought I’d answer these in one go, since you both happened to ask at the same time. You’ve asked for slightly different things though, so I’ll just tell you the blogs that I like, and you can take a look and decide for yourself if they’re what you’re looking for :3
Here are my tumblr crushes!
I’m 100% sure I’m forgetting some great ones, but my mind has gone completely blank. So if you like to post body positivity/health/self-care etc, feel free to like this post so that we can check out your blog!
Why is it accepted that some people who eat a ton of food can stay thin, but not accepted that some people who eat a small amount of food can be fat?
Since thin people get diabetes, heart disease and high blood pressure, why is becoming thin suggested as a cure?
Why bother using BMI as a substitute for metabolic health measures when we can easily test metabolic health measures?
Doctors treat thin people for joint pain with options other than weight loss, why don’t they give fat people those same treatments?
Why do we believe that doing unhealthy things (liquid diet, smoking, urine injections coupled with starvation, stomach amputation) will lead to a healthy body?
If the diet industry’s product actually “cured fatness”, wouldn’t their profits be going down instead of up as more and more people were permanently thin?
Isn’t it medically unethical to prescribe something without telling your patients that it works less than 5% of the time with a much greater chance at leaving you heavier and less healthy than when you started?
Why do people continue to think that shaming people will lead them to health?
Why do we accept wide variations in things like foot and hand size, nose and lip shape etc. but expect every body to fit into a very narrow proportion of height and weight?
If weight gain isn’t proven to cause diabetes, high blood pressure etc., why would weight loss be recommended as a cure?
Since weight loss ads have to carry a “results not typical” warning, shouldn’t doctors have to give patients a similar warning?
Why do people take the time to come to my blog and make death threats?
Does anyone really succeed at hating themselves healthy? If so is it worth it?
If we’ve been prescribing dieting since the 1800s and still can’t prove that it works, shouldn’t we be trying something else?
How is it possible that suggesting that healthy habits are the best chance for a healthy body is controversial?"
YES to everything but the death threats.
I’m studying Medical Science and we were recently talking about obesity. And the thing is, the lecturer all but told us (reluctantly in fact) that there is no such thing as a cure for obesity. There is a very dangerous precedent in both the medical community and everyday society that obesity is tied to lazyness and that every single medical problem an obese person has (note that I say ‘obese’ and not ‘fat’, because though there is absolutely no reason to denigrate both as they are in society the two are DIFFERENT. One can be fat and not obese. One can be obese and not fat) is blamed on them being obese, and that THEY need to cure it themselves.
But it doesn’t work.
Diets, medicine, it simply doesn’t work. Perhaps it does for a short period of time, but not long term. Only surgery works and it’s a vastly traumatic and expensive resort.
So not only do doctors and general society get into every person’s life because they do not fit their standard of what a ‘healthy’ person should be like, not only do they risk their life not only by openly judging and condemning them for being overweight and as such sometimes give them the wrong diagnosis on purpose because they think being fat = being obese = the source of all your health problems and as such risk people’s lives and actual health, not only do they spread misinformation that hurts people by the millions…
…but they blame obese people for their own body, their own metabolism, ask them to change and blame them for not doing so when it is not physically possible.
The medical community is only BEGINNING to recognize the extend of that problem and how badly they’ve screwed up in that regard, but they are still oh so very reluctant to admit it and own up, and many are still grumpily trying to prove the correlation.
When really, it’s always been vastly more complicated than that. But people have been so eager to simplify the issue and use it to make people suffer that it doesn’t matter, as long as they can prove to their inner fatphobic tendencies that yes, they are really right.
I’ve come up with a new concept for the page where I share five inspirational things in several categories.
It may be helpful to some of you :)
Top Five Positive Aspirations:
- I am enough. I am enough. I am enough.
- My body is my own. There are many like it, but this one is mine.
- The only opinion that matters about my body, is mine.
- I am capable, I am strong, I am healthy, I am unique, I am me.
- We all make mistakes, let’s learn from them and move on.
Top Five Songs To Help You Feel Good:
- Macklemore - Can’t Hold Us.
- The Lumineers - Ho Hey.
- Body Love - Mary Lambert.
- What a Wonderful World - Louis Armstrong.
- Flawless - Beyonce.
Top Five Inspiring Blogs:
Top Five Pictures To Make You Smile:
Top Five Things To Do If You’re Feeling Down:
- Take your dog for a walk.
- Bake something.
- Get creative and paint, craft, or sew something.
- Have a nap.
- Have a nice hot shower.
This is the first of many (I hope) Top Fives :) I’ll try to do one each month, with different categories and different Fives.
I hope you all have a wonderful day,
One of my facebook friends posted a link to an article preaching body acceptance because despite what you might see when you look in the mirror, your man sees a “woman he’d love to strip naked and get busy with right this second, maybe sooner.”
You know what? I don’t give a fuck what men “really” think of my body. Really, even if their thoughts are “good,” my self image has NOTHING to do with whether or not men are attracted to me. I personally feel that it’s a problem for my self image to be contingent on what someone else thinks about me. Moreover, I sure as hell do not define myself or want to define myself through a man’s eyes. My love of my body is unconditional and has to exist outside certain things in order to constantly exist.
To be honest, I don’t want men thinking about my body at all. Recently, one of my pictures was picked up by a few bbw/fat fetish blogs. I clicked to see who had reblogged my photos and there I was, in my long sleeve, collared dress, surrounded by porn. Like there’s my picture, my body, being used in a way that I don’t consent to. I know I posted this on the internet, but I posted a pic of me in a cute outfit to be like hey fat girl looks cute and tagged it with “fashion” and “ootd.” Existing in a public space does not give people the right to objectify you.
Lastly, I would never date someone who views me as a sex object. If “my man” looks at me and just wants to rip off my clothes, that’s a problem. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with wanting to be looked at or enjoying being seen as a sexual being, I’m angry that being sexualized in this way is part of our society’s narrative of a “normal” het relationship or at least that it’s normal male behavior. We’re told that (cis het) men always want sex, that they get turned on by women’s bodies just existing, that they can’t control themselves. I don’t want to reinforce that narrative, especially not in a way that tells women they should enjoy it.
Look, I’m not going to attack my female friends for posting articles like this because body acceptance is hard and existing as a female with a body is hard, but I want us to do better.
I don’t have an obligation to be healthy, actually, and I don’t have an obligation to rush to assure you that I’m a ‘good fatty’ with great cholesterol and good scores on other health indicators allegedly related to weight. I don’t have an obligation to tell you that fat isn’t correlated with health because I shouldn’t have to justify the existence of fat people by informing you that you don’t understand how fat bodies work, and you’re not familiar with the latest studies on fatness, morbidity and mortality, health indicators, and social trends.
Because fat people have a right to exist, healthy or unhealthy, and this whole argument about health is a red herring. It suggests that if only fat people could prove that fat and health aren’t coupled, they’d be okay. Society is just concerned for us—worried that we’ll be felled too soon, taking our glorious minds into the ground with us to rot, all because we were fat and we refused to take personal responsibility for our fatness.
Here’s the thing, though: fat people have a right to exist, no matter what their health status is, and their health status is both not your business and not evidence to be used when determining whether they should be found wanting. Fatness is just a characteristic, one with which many people have a complex relationship because it’s socially loaded. Your judgement about fat has not been requested, nor is it required."