1. Know that you are still blooming, and this is okay.
2. Write handwritten love notes to the parts of yourself you hate.
3. Find the comfort in holding your own hand.
4. Remember, even clouds cry sometimes.
5. Date yourself. Get to know yourself again.
6. Learn how to be alone without feeling lonely.
7. Do something that scares you every day, no matter how small. Watch your life change.
8. Stop wishing for a vacation and make your life into something you don’t wish to escape from.
9. Recognize that the best artists color outside the lines. You have the same freedom in your life. Break conventions.
10. Go to the florist on the corner and buy yourself some flowers. Spoil yourself. You deserve it.
11. Throw out your premeditated list of qualities for your perfect mate. That special person is not a recipe or equation. Humans are more than that.
12. Share your testimony. Our story is meant to be heard. Find your voice.
13. Wish to be more like rain than snow. Snow is frigid and hardens. Rain is vulnerable and soft.
14. Look at your veins. They are roots, and your limbs are branches. Your body is a strong tree. Don’t you dare cut it down.
15. Strive to have the humility as the sun. It shines brilliantly every day without needing anyone to notice.
16. Flip through old photos and reminisce about the past, but do not live there. Nothing new happens there.
17. Dust off the fingerprints of any past lover left on your skin. You belong only to yourself.
18. Become the person you’d like to fall in love with.
19. Loving yourself again will be like putting on eyeglasses. The blur will fade and you will see yourself for what you truly are: beautiful."
You’re vegan?? BUT HOW DO YOU GET YOUR PROTEIN?!
Here are some wintry animals reminding you to have a nice day and please take care of yourself because you are lovely!
We’re big fans of self-care.
What studios are you looking at?
I go to Brass Ovaries here in Austin (they’re amazing and have great Groupon deals and I recommend that anyone interested in pole dancing in the ATX area check them out), but I also want to try ATX Pole Fitness because Brass Ovaries likes them and their studio is gorgeous. (Plus, ATX Pole has Open Pole Practice, which I need if I want to work on my own routines.)
All I want for Christmas is pole gift cards.
Bianca is an artistic jill-of-all-trades, a body-positive feminist, and a good friend of mine from my university years. Bianca and I got to be friends quickly after meeting in a coffee shop, and she has always inspired me by how she creates beautiful works, stands up to bullying, and strives every day to love herself and better the world. And a while back, Bianca answered some questions that I had for her about those fights.
(Trigger warning for self-hatred, rape, depression.)